South Dakota Representative Steve Hickey’s Obsession with Anal Sex

steve hickey

WARNING! Vulgar, sexually-oriented language ahead.

South Dakota Republican Steve Hickey recently wrote a letter to the editor of The Argus Reader exposing his obsession with how certain people have sex. (the letter has not yet been published) Here’s what Hickey had to say:

A One Way Alley for the Garbage Truck
Rep. Steve Hickey, District 9, Sioux Falls

Consider this an open letter to the medical and psychological communities in South Dakota. The subject is homosexuality, which is about to be a front-page topic for the next few years in our state. I’m asking the doctors who practice in our state, is the science really settled on this issue or is it more the case that you feel silenced and intimidated?

Certainly there are board-certified doctors in our state who will attest to what seems self-evident to so many: gay sex is not good for the body or mind. Pardon a crude comparison but regarding men with men, we are talking about a one-way alley meant only for the garbage truck to go down. Frankly, I’d question the judgment of doctor who says it’s all fine.

South Dakota docs, it’s time for you to come out of the closet and give your professional opinion on this matter like you capably and responsibly do on all the others. Somehow the message we are presently getting from the medical community is that eating at McDonalds will kill us but the gay lifestyle has no side effects. Truth be told it seems self-evident the list of side effects would read far longer than anything we hear on a Cialis commercial.

If many are indeed wearying of our religious community leading on these morality issues, and believe also those of us in the legislature should butt out too, it’s time for the medical community in our state to be honest with us. If you don’t speak up, this issue will be decided by five unelected judges on the Supreme Court regardless of what states like ours have decided by public vote.

This indeed is a matter of being on the wrong side of history considering that historically, homosexuality has been a notable marker of the downfall of past civilizations, not their rise. It’s not hate for a physician to speak up about something that is harmful to human health. It is not unloving to tell people you don’t have to have sex with and marry someone to love and be loved by them. As one who performs marriages and counsels couples as part of my professional life, marriage is the last thing I’d recommend to someone who simply wants to be loved and legitimized. What do other health care and mental health professionals in our state really think?

The South Dakota High School Activities Association is presently considering changing the rules to accommodate transgender kids. Forty-one percent of those who struggle with Gender Dysphoria attempt suicide, that’s twenty-five times the rate of the general population– certainly tragic and urgent but not a word from the medical and psychological communities? So really, we are letting our basketball coaches sort it out while ACLU lawyers look carefully over their shoulders!?

Letting boys play girl sports is not the starting place to fix the suicide problem or the very real daily struggle these students face dealing with something they have been handed in life. Society is broken and people have broken identities. Is it really best for us to break down the one remaining thing that has been working in society to try to fix the broken in our midst? And does it really even do that, or does it merely put them in more places exposing them to additional painful ostracization all the while transferring serious anxieties to other innocent and impressionable ones in those locker rooms? We need to have compassion but there are unintended consequences to consider too.

Before we let lawyers and judges decide this for our state and override the will of the people in the 2006 election, I issue a call to the medical and psychological communities and associations to weigh in publicly and timely on the matter of homosexuality and the human body, psyche and family, particular kids.

The short response to Hickey’s letter to the editor is, mind your own %&*$* business. Who does what, when, where, and how,  as long as they are consenting adults, is none of Hickey’s business. When someone obsesses over the sexual proclivities of others, I begin to wonder if they secretly desire what they object to.  As we have learned from the sex scandals of politicians and clergy over the years, often those whose moralize the loudest are, in secret, doing the very things they self-righteously object to. Perhaps Steve Hickey is a repressed homosexual or secretly desires to play in the garbage truck alley.

Not only is Hickey a South Dakota Representative, he is also a pastor. Hickey is the pastor of Church at the Gate is Sioux Falls, South Dakota. The church is a fundamentalist church affiliated with The Association of Related Churches. ( Previously, I wrote about another ARC church, Elevate City Church in Fort Wayne)   After looking at his church’s website, I think that I have found conclusive proof that Hickey is a closet homosexual. Consider this graphic from the church’s website:

steve hickey church graphic

Now, I don’t really know if Hickey is a closeted homosexual. All I know is, based on his blog and his letter to the editor, he is a homophobic bigot that thinks he has a right to meddle in the sexual proclivities of others.

Hickey is using a tired objection to homosexuality based on the method many gays use to have sex. The anus is not meant for sexual intercourse, so it is wrong to have anal sex. He thinks he is being cute with the garbage truck line, forgetting the fact that his penis is used to empty liquid bodily waste. Using Hickey’s logic, the penis should not be used for sex.

The mouth is also not made for sex. The mouth is used to eat, breathe, burp, and vomit. I wonder if Hickey thinks oral sex is wrong? And what about heterosexual couples that engage in anal sex? I wonder what he thinks about couples who think any opening  is a potential site for sex?

It is one thing for doctors and scientists to say that this or that sexual practice has _____________risk. Surely Hickey knows that vaginal sex has risks too? Everything we do in life has risk, and unless the risk is egregious, the government has no business banning or restricting a particular behavior. Just because some people who do _____________ have a negative outcome doesn’t mean that everyone should be barred from doing it.

The real issue here is that Hickey is a fundamentalist Christian pastor who thinks any form of sexual activity except penis/vaginal intercourse between a heterosexual married couple is a sin. He wants the Evangelical Christian moral code made binding on everyone. To put it bluntly, if he can’t have fun between the buns no one can.

Of greater concern is Hickey’s view of transgendered people. (and I assume his view of anyone who is not heterosexual) Hickey, if he is the Christian fundamentalist I think he is, believes God created male and female, end of story. (though one line in a report suggests he “might” think gays are “born that way)  He likely considers all other genders sinful, the choice of, to use his words, broken people. In Hickey’s mind, a transgender person is just a broken sinner acting on their sinful, wicked desires. The fact that he asks the medical and the psychological community to weigh in likely means that he thinks those who are having gender identity issues are mentally ill.

As makes clear, the medical community have already weighed in on these issues:

Actually, American medical and psychological communities have spoken out vehemently and unequivocally in favor of gay and trans rights, again and again and again and again and again and again and again.

According to a Talking Point Memo, Hickey is receiving a huge backlash from his letter. Here is what Hickey had to say:

“I’ve received hundreds of emails, lots of tweets. My wife is getting calls, my kids are getting calls. I’m getting calls at all my phone numbers, home and work, which are public. So this is not a crowd that will tolerate any conversation about what they want to legitimize, what they want us to legitimize.”

“I call it the faux outrage of the shock value gay pride people who feed vulgarity and obscenity to seven and eight year olds, and seventh graders and eighth graders in health class, and all of a sudden they’re shocked by my garbage truck thing. Whatever,”

“I grieve because in this debate what gets lost is my heart. I want what’s best for people. If you hung around me, you wouldn’t see a bit of hate. I care. We have people in our church who are struggling with all kinds of things. I treat this no different than anything else.”

“I have had my own struggles with a variety of things in the past. I mentioned my health problems I’ve had. I’ve spent my life helping people and sometimes it’s tough love, but I’m not an enabler. And with any kind of addictive and unhealthy behavior, if you only have people around you who tell you it’s OK, that’s what we have going on with this issue. We have a society that has now enabled what would be a biological perversion. I think society breaks down. It affects families. It’s not better. I’m not alone in that. In the midst of all this, I got a lot of people who are saying, ‘Hang in there, man.’”

I have no doubt that Hickey has been savagely attacked. When you directly attack a group of people, you can expect some of them to violently respond. Welcome to the internet, Pastor Hickey. Of course, Hickey has taken to Twitter to whine about his treatment:

hickey tweets

Yes, the email Hickey references is vulgar. However, lost on Hickey is the fact that so was his letter to the editor of The Argus Reader. It was offensive to all of us who value justice and equal rights for all, who think the government has no business poking its nose into how, when, where, and with who people have sex. Most of all, it was offensive to the LGBTQ community.

Hickey is so blinded by Christian fundamentalism that he can not see how hateful and offensive his letter is. Either that or he doesn’t care. He shows what this is REALLY about when he calls out  South Dakota Democrats for not renouncing the hateful, angry emails he has received. Why should they renounce anything? Like the racist Donald Sterling, Steve Hickey has exposed his homophobic bigotry for all to see. The only person needing renouncing is him.

Comments (19)

  1. Bruce Gerencser (Post author)

    Here’s Hickey’s Facebook page.

    The comments are interesting. So is Hickey saying anal sex is against nature and no respectable woman would ever have anal sex.

  2. Steve

    YES!!!! You posted it!!!! Hahahaaa!!!

    I friggin’ LOVE YOU, dude!!!!

  3. Joyce

    Perhaps Steve Hickey is a repressed homosexual or secretly desires to play in the garbage truck alley.


    I often wonder why all these right wing extremists are so focused on homosexuality. As someone who has never been interested in what other people do in private, I just don’t get it. And I also find it bor-ing!

    What exactly are they trying to achieve? Do they think that if all their people just rise up, Others will go away? I don’t understand what they want. Do they really think that the hundreds of millions of people in the US who aren’t like them will convert? And I also don’t understand why they think this issue is “destroying America.” Lots of countries have legalized marriage equality, and speaking as a Canadian, it hasn’t made any difference in my life at all. Canada has not collapsed, and god has not struck us down. Canada regularly comes in at the top, or at least in the top 10, of a wide-range of “great place to live” surveys–beats the US almost every time. Using their logic, shouldn’t we be tumbling down the livability scales?

    Is this being used as a distraction from other issues?

    1. Aram McLean

      You basically made my comment for me. So I’ll leave it at that :)
      (Though regarding the mental state of Americans, the quick version is that this is what you get when you combine individualism with moralism in a national bubble-wide consciousness. = Schizophrenia 101.)

  4. Juliet

    Yeah, he seems like he’d be a Larry Craig type, trolling for guys. I never got these guys’ obsession with male-on-male sex. Needless to say, my abusive ex (an Evangelical,) who reamed me for telling him I was bisexual, later admitted he was bi-curious. Interesting how that works.

    1. brbr2424

      I think Santorum has the same issue. He only believes in marital sex when it results in procreation. I think he finds sex with his wife icky.

  5. sgl

    interesting he’s calling on the medical community, which is part of the scientific community. hmmm, maybe they’ll start calling on the scientific community, say astrophysicists, for things like, how the universe was formed?

    seems like a desperate plea for reinforcements since they’re losing the battle on the moral terms, so they’re hoping to find any scrap of evidence so they can pretend it’s due to something other than their bible code.

    also, showing all the hate mail, while it’s rather vile mail, is probably nothing compared to the hate mail that LGBT folks get/hear on a regular basis. so he’s pretending to compare his “calm” statement of opinion with the “hate” he gets in return, completely ignoring the calm that the majority of LGBT folk try to live their lives by, and the hate they get in return. could not just about every LGBT person say “too bad what gets lost is my heart” when they get hate and bullying from fundamentalists? and he’s completely blind to that fact too, and will likely deny it if challenged.

  6. carmen

    Well, Bruce – two great belly laughs this morning. I know Chris’ comment (in response to Hickey’s tweet) is offensive but, to me; absolutely hilarious. And you are 100% correct – no more offensive then the original letter of Hickey’s. Then Steve’s comment – oh, my! giggle, giggle. . ..

    From a Canadian perspective, when I read these accounts of morally outraged Christian fundamentalists (on the same-sex union issue) I find myself often thinking, “Get over yourselves!”

    Stephen Fry said it best when he said, “People need to STOP thinking of it as a different kind of sex and START thinking of it as another kind of love”.

  7. Pat f

    Again. Why should we be concerned with how people enjoy themselves? People really sit down and think about it. Lol. I get enough enjoyment just thinking about me and mine!

  8. mikespeir

    I’ll confess to being grossly turned off to the idea myself. Thank goodness laws aren’t being passed on the basis of what I’m turned off to.

    1. Aram McLean

      Exactly. What we may or may not find personally appetizing has no place in the national discourse.

  9. Becky Wiren

    Well, it means that you aren’t into that. Funny all the heterosexual guys who are enthusiasts about girl on girl action though!

  10. Becky Wiren

    The problem is that these guys think it is all about sex organs and sex. It is about how we relate to others on a fundamental level. On my journey away from conservative Christianity, I observed 2 dear lesbian friends who are married. (Technically not legally at the time and depending on which damn state!) Their behavior to each other was exactly the same as the behavior between any old married heterosexual couple, loving, concerned etc. One of them nearly died and the other had to fight for fundamental rights to have 100% access in the hospital for visitation and rights to make decisions etc. Once I realized the tremendous love that existed I had to say that there was NOTHING wrong with this love. Of course, that was the death of me being the conservative Christian who accepted the Bible unthinkingly.

  11. kittybrat

    Oh, Brother! He’s calling on the MEDICAL community to back him up? (sorry, bad pun) *crickets*
    Buddy, this is the reaction a person gets when spewing hatred now a days. And well, what can he expect? Well, what he DOES expect is that doctors and others will proclaim loudly their assertions that his theocratic, homophobic, putrid speech is somehow obvious. But, truly, his view is the aberration when it comes to reality, and society is not going to stand for this.
    Throw hatred out and then be surprised by the hatred received in kind… huh.

  12. Jada

    Get down off the cross, Steve Hickey. Don’t you know that’s Jesus’s gig?

  13. Infidel753

    Sigh. Why do these people always assume that gay male sex means anal sex? Anal sex is one of the less common forms of sexual expression among gay males:

    and of course some heterosexual engage in anal sex too.

  14. brbr2424

    “I have had my own struggles with a variety of things in the past.” There is the money quote. I suspect he struggles with attraction to men.

    1. Bruce Gerencser (Post author)

      I think you may be right. I didn’t consider his comment is this context until you mentioned it.

  15. Becky Wiren

    So many of these puritanical people. It isn’t good enough for them (whether hiding their own nature or not) to refrain from certain acts. Oh no, they have to go out of their way to make sure other people STOP. I want to ask these types of Christians if they have sex before marriage or outside of marriage. It is all about SEX. I think you all are right, they are obsessed with what they find exciting and evil. Ugh.


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