Many Christians are quite hard-hearted. They seem to think that they have the right to say anything they want to an atheist, even when they are asked NOT to do so. Christians are fond of signing off blog comments and emails to me with “God still loves you.”
Let me put this in a different context.
Imagine if you had been married for 25 years and recently went through a bitter, acrimonious divorce. Imagine you were relieved once your divorce was final. Imagine you had a met a new person who was the love of your life, who made your eyes sparkle, and warmed your heart. Imagine that your life was now better than you ever thought possible. Here you are 57 years of age, divorced, dating a wonderful person, and life is w-o-n-d-e-r-f-u-l.
Now imagine running into a friend of your ex-husband. They let you know, in no uncertain terms, that your ex-husband loves you and wants to be remarried to you! Would you be OK with this?
Yet, this is EXACTLY what Christians do when they sign off their comments or emails to me with “God still loves you.” (and often add whether you accept or believe it)
Here’s what I think. I don’t think most Christians who contact me to show their “care” or “concern” are interested me at all. I am just a sinner that needs saving, a reprobate that needs rebuking, or a backslider that needs reclaimed. Rather than accepting that I am h-a-p-p-y and satisfied with my life post-Jesus, they think if they just remind me that God, their God, the Christian God really, really, really loves me that I will somehow go running back to the spouse that I bitterly and acrimoniously divorced years ago. They want me to try to love again the spouse that took from me my youth, intellect, money and health. They want me to love again a spouse who demanded I give them everything and who gave me little or nothing in return. I did the sacrificing, I lived the life of self-denial, and what did my loving spouse do in return? Nothing. Why? Because he promised me a wonderful vacation spot after I died and that was supposed to be proof that he loved me, cared for me, and had a wonderful plan for my life.
No thanks. I have no interest in getting back together with my old spouse. They had the chance (yes they, since it was a foursome, me, the father, the son, and the holy ghost) to show me their love and they blew it. And all their other ex-spouses say the same thing. (yes, they have been married more than once) So, please don’t sign off your comment or email with “God still loves you.” I ain’t buying it.