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I Really Liked You, but Then I Found Out You Were An Atheist!

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My writing tends to attract a number of Evangelical readers. If they happen to come to this site via a search engine result that takes them to a specific page, and they are not overtly curious about who I am, they might even conclude that I am a Christian. I’ve received numerous emails from Christians praising me for my stand on the Word of God, only to get another email later expressing how disappointed they are about finding out I am an atheist. One woman even told that she wished she hadn’t learned this because now she couldn’t trust any of my writing. (see Curiosity, a Missing Evangelical Trait)

Evangelicals say that truth is important to them, but the fact is they only want truth from certain sources. They only trust their own and they are unwilling to believe that truth can be found outside of their peculiar rut. It seems that everything I learned about the Bible, Christianity, and the ministry the first 50 years of my life became toxic and worthless the moment I said I no longer believe. All of a sudden, a once trust source is now considered a heretic, a liar, a deceiver, and a tool of Satan.

Several months ago, an Evangelical woman commented on this site and tried to solicit my support for her war against clergy sexual abuse. She loved my writing about the subject and was certain we were of a common mind. At the time, she didn’t know I was an atheist. Once she found out I was, here’s the email she sent me:

I was not familiar with your story and change of heart concerning God’s word. I can tell you I don’t believe in religion but I do believe in the bible. Big big difference. People, circumstances, man made religions will always hurt us and let us down. I have never felt the pressure to conform to anything or anybody. I have never tried to take the burdens of this world on my shoulders and have never judged my belief in God’s word based on my circumstances. Why? The bible is clear on who we are and aren’t in Christ. This world is set in motion both good and bad by our Heavenly Father. We are all called  individually to find our way to our creator via the bible. I am a RN,grandmother, saved at nine. The things I have seen in my years working with  dying patients has only strengthen my belief. Those who choose to look at the leaders of organized religion  and believe their every word and interpretation of the bible. Are the ones that burn out,walk away and give satan the victory. If I thought for one minute this life was it. I would never have brought children into it. Man could never have  created our beautiful nature around us. Sit in the woods and listen, look,and you will find our creator.  Look away from man and your own reasoning. It will always leave you with feelings of loss and doubts if you don’t. Praying for you.

I can only imagine how disappointed she was when she found out I was not on Team Jesus. I will leave it to others, if they are so inclined, to respond to her silly notion about religion vs. the Bible. I will say that it is religion that gave us the Bible, not the other way around. The Bible was birthed by the church. Only Evangelicals fail to understand this, thinking that God tossed a leather-bound King James Bible over the portal of heaven and when it landed on earth it immediately gave birth to Christianity.

On another post, Brian and Zoe  responded to her statement about not having children if this life is all there is.

Brian said:

” If I thought life here as we know it was all their is. I couldn’t face another day. I would not want to be a mother grandmother or nurse. What hope could I give my loved ones and patients. I know without a doubt I have a creator above that loves me just like I am. Knowing him makes me want to love give forgive and keep reaching out.”

I am so sorry that life is so meaningless to you, that you couldn’t face another day! That you would spurn motherhood and being a grandmother and nurse! Wow, what utter depravity you must live with…. I am so sorry. As a mother, a grandmother and nurse you likely give such love and help… YOU give…. Why do you throw that away as if it is worthless? I find statements like yours very very sad. What on earth happened to you to make you state such things? Just open your heart (to yourself.)

Zoe had this to say:

Cheryl wrote: ” If I thought life here as we know it was all their is. I couldn’t face another day. I would not want to be a mother grandmother or nurse. What hope could I give my loved ones and patients.”

Zoe responds: Sure you could Cheryl, you just don’t know it. You aren’t so very different than many of us who also once could have and did have those same thoughts. I suspect like many of us because you are a mother a grandmother and a nurse, you indeed could face another day, many days. 🙂

My unbelief in your God does not affect who I am as a caring and kind person. I spent time yesterday with a Christian family who is facing a life and death situation. My unbelief did not affect my love for them or my ability to be present, to help, to make supper, to care for children, to encourage and support them. It certainly also did not interrupt my hope for the best possible outcome. As a nurse myself (no longer in practice) I am also still a great sounding board regarding medical terminology. My unbelief in a theistic being like yours doesn’t change who I am as a human being.

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5 Comments

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    Zoe

    Thanks for pointing out that you’ve received emails from Cheryl before. And I see you’ve gotten more of the same from her that you’ve received from others.

    I guess you are no longer useful in the fight against clergy sexual abuse now. Good heavens. Can’t have an atheist helping for the cause. *sigh*

    Well, this atheist spent her whole Thanksgiving Monday (Canada eh) making food and packaging it to deliver it yesterday to help out with two families. Christians too!

    I don’t know. Maybe Cheryl would like them to just throw all that food away because it was grown and made by atheists?

    I don’t know if Cheryl has moved on. I hope she does realize that there are countless people who believe otherwise but still take up some of the causes she fights against. She may be working alongside someone in her charity work, in her career, in her neighbourhood and not even realize that they don’t believe as she does but still make great human beings. 🙂

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    Charity

    Here by way of Zoe’s blog.

    I have recently been reminded in my real life (non cyber world), yet again, that a religionist (specifically Christian) will ALWAYS choose another Christian over an atheist. As atheists, my husband and I take months, even years, gradually building friendships with Christians. In the end we have discovered that all of our time, efforts, honesty and money can’t hold a candle to just the mere existance of another Christian. Whether it’s another person, church or denomination, Brother and Sister Christian will choose it/them every time EVEN IF that person or group has hurt him or her.

    And still, even right up to our recent two weeks of drama with a Christian couple, I had the hope that things will be different this time. I continually sought the best in them. I then find myself pissed with myself. After all, it’s been three and a half years since our deconversion, these results are nothing new.

    I’m thinking that no matter how cross cultural or progressive a Christian comes across as, he/she will always see an atheist as shit at the bottom of his or her shoe.

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    Kenneth

    One thing Christians will never understand is that we feel just fine as atheists. We aren’t afraid of hell, doing something “wrong” all the time, or feeling guilty all the time. We are FREE. In fact, almost all of us would likely agree that our lives are MORE fulfilling as atheists vs being Christians. At least, I can say that for myself with absolute certainty.

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    Angiep

    Kenneth, I agree with your statements COMPLETELY. Life is SO much better now that I don’t have the image hanging over me of an angry deity watching my every move. Nor do I have to put people through the “God filter” to see if they are saved, and can be my friends, or not saved, and have to be won over to the lord before I can be close to them.
    And Charity: I’m not sure if Christians see us as shit on the bottom of their shoe, or they are just afraid of us. It becomes easier for them to dismiss us if they can judge us and dislike us for our “unbelief.” They may latch onto other Christians when forced to choose between us and them, but if they were honest with themselves, they would admit that often they don’t really like their Christian friends that much. At least that’s how I used to feel.

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    Cob

    I am so much happier now that I left my faith. I used to wonder how I could go on without God, what else is there. When I lost my faith it was strange how life just went on. I grieved for the relationships and community I lost, but God really wasn’t that hard to loose. Life did not loose its meaning, and I did struggle with a lot of anger and hatred at how horrible people can act for a time. After all I am free to hate now, but I choose not to, because I don’t want to be like that. Im still the same old me in a lot of ways. Just much happier, wiser, and braver than my Christian days. Life does not feel less meaningful, just more precious because it’s all I got. It is more filled with wonder as I learn more about it

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