Thank You for Commenting

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After a hiatus of nine months, I started blogging again in December 2014. Since that time, readers have posted almost 22,000 comments — an average of seven comments per post. I want to thank those of you who take the time to comment. I appreciate your thoughtful participation. I don’t have the time or energy to respond to every comment, but I do read them. Your support is greatly appreciated.

I haven’t explained my view of commenting in a while, so let me do so now. I know some of you participate on blogs where the owner responds to every comment.  I wish I could do so, but physically I can’t, nor do I want to just hurriedly leave thank you, thank you, and you too comments.  On any given day, I have a small time-window for taking care of writing and blog maintenance. I am committed to writing on an almost-daily basis, along with maintaining series such as Sacrilegious HumorSongs of SacrilegeTales From the Appalachian Foothills, Independent Baptist SongsGod’s True Church, and the Black Collar Crime series.  By the time I am done writing for the day, I am exhausted and ready to retire to my recliner so I can watch whatever game is on TV that night. Typically, I don’t do much writing on the weekends. Polly works nights — 6 pm to 2 am — so the only time we have to socialize, travel, or goof off is on weekends. As many of you know, I am a photographer. I like to take day road trips on Saturday or Sunday. Last Sunday, we spent a good part of the day traveling the back roads of northeast Indiana. Polly drives, and I look for photo opportunities. Most of all, I enjoy spending time with Polly and Bethany away from home.

The commenting section is yours. Please use it to share your thoughts. If you want or need me to specifically respond to your comment, please make that clear. HEY BRUCE in all caps really helps! I will, if needed, respond to Fundamentalist commenters. But even here, some of you are quite skilled at responding to Evangelical zealots and apologists, and I hope you will continue to do so. Unlike preachers in the churches many of us grew up in, mine doesn’t have to be the only voice. Diversity of thought and opinion is always welcome, even if I might disagree with you.

Top Thirty All Time Commenters

  • Brian Vanderlip
  • ObstacleChick
  • Bruce Gerencser
  • Geoff
  • Troy
  • Steve Gupton (deceased)
  • Melody
  • Becky
  • Michael Mock
  • Karen the rock whisperer
  • Zoe
  • John Arthur
  • Ami
  • Trenton
  • Matilddaa
  • Angiep
  • Anotherami
  • Kittybrat
  • Ian
  • JD Matthews
  • JR
  • Lynn
  • Jada
  • Rachel
  • Rebecca (banned)
  • Suzanne Tickemeyer
  • Sgl
  • Charles (banned)
  • Scott

Top Thirty Commenters 2019

  • ObstacleChick
  • Bruce Gerencser
  • Brian Vanderlip
  • Kris
  • Caroline
  • Troy
  • Hugh Young
  • Matilda
  • Maryg
  • GeoffT
  • Becky
  • Karen the rock whisperer
  • Zoe
  • Carolk
  • Charles
  • Dave
  • Angiep
  • Darcy
  • Jen
  • Ami
  • MJ Lisbeth
  • przxqgl
  • Rachel
  • John Arthur
  • Michael Mock
  • Trenton
  • Julie Snider
  • That Other Jean
  • Autumn
  • Byroniac

I added a Top Commenter widget on the front-page sidebar. The comment count numbers are for the year.

Currently, five people are banned from commenting. Over the calendar year, the banned list grows. At the first of every year, I delete all the banned IP addresses and email addresses, giving the people previously banned an opportunity to try to play well with others. Most become repeat offenders. In the four and a half years I have been writing for this iteration of my blog, I have only permanently banned one person: Rebecca.

Updated Commenting Policy

All commenters are expected to use a functioning email address. The use of a fake or non-functioning email address will result in your comment being deleted.

Pseudonyms are permitted. Please use one, and only one, pseudonym when commenting on this blog. People using more than one will have their comments deleted.

All first-time comments and comments with more than one HTML link are moderated. Depending on the time of day, it might take hours for me to approve your comment.

Before commenting, please read the ABOUT page to acquaint yourself with my background. You might also want to read the Dear Evangelical page and the WHY page

The following type of comments will not be approved:

  • Preachy/sermonizing comment
  • Bible verse-quoting comment
  • Evangelizing comment
  • I am praying for you comment
  • You are going to hell comment
  • You never were saved comment
  • You never were a Christian comment
  • Any comment that is a personal attack on me personally, my family, or the readers of this blog
  • Any comment that is not on point with what the post is about
  • Any comment that denigrates abuse victims

I write about issues that might not be child-friendly. Please be aware of this. I also use profanity from time to time, and I allow the use of profanity in the comment section.

The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser is not a democracy where visitors have a right to say whatever they want. This is my personal blog and I reserve the right to approve or disapprove any comment. When a comment or a commenter is abusive towards the community of people who read this blog, I reserve the right to ban the commenter.

If you can be respectful, decent, and thoughtful, your comments will always be approved. Unfortunately, there are many people — Evangelical/Fundamentalist/IFB/Conservative Catholic Christians in particular — who have a hard time playing well with others. Using a passive-aggressive approach in the comment section will not be tolerated and will result in a permanent ban.

This blog is also not a place for hardcore atheists to preach the gospel of atheism. While I am an atheist, some of the people who read this blog are not. Frank, honest, open, and passionate discussion about religion, Christianity, and Evangelicalism is encouraged and welcome. However, I do expect atheists not to attack, badger, or denigrate people who still believe in God. If you are respectful, decent, and thoughtful, you will be fine.

Generally, I will post one comment from a preachy, Bible-quoting, evangelizing Evangelical. If this describes you, please make sure you say all you need to say in your comment. By all means, say whatever it is you think “God” is leading you to say, but understand that no further comments will be approved once you have said your piece.

My writing is direct and pointed, and so is my response to comments. Please do not confuse my directness and pointedness with me attacking you or your religion. This is a grown-up blog, so cries that I offended you or “attacked” your religion will fall on deaf ears.

If you can play by these rules, I hope you will become a part of our community and join the discussion.

If you have further questions about the commenting policy, please use the contact form to email me.

About Bruce Gerencser

Bruce Gerencser, 62, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 41 years. He and his wife have six grown children and twelve grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist. For more information about Bruce, please read the About page.

Thank you for reading this post. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. If you are a first-time commenter, please read the commenting policy before wowing readers with your words. All first-time comments are moderated. If you would like to contact Bruce directly, please use the contact form to do so.

Donations are always appreciated. Donations on a monthly basis can be made through Patreon. One-time donations can be made through PayPal.

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12 Comments

  1. Troy

    I found this interesting. Your blog may be rather smallish, but I like that in a blog.

    I really miss Steve Gupton. I obviously didn’t know him personally, but I’m affected whenever I think about his unexpected death.

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  2. Becky

    The only reason I’ve ever modified my sign in name is when I comment on something NOT about myself, but husband or sons. So I’ll try to be more consistent or just omit talking about them. (To be honest, I forget too which name I usually use!)

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  3. ObstacleChick

    Thank you for your blog, Bruce, and thank you for allowing us to comment. Sometimes your post or that of a guest will bring up a memory I haven’t thought of in years. Thank you for maintaining a respectful environment.

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  4. Mary

    I don’t comment often, but I do enjoy your blog very much

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  5. Zoe

    Rats! I missed all time top 10. Must get busy. 😉

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  6. Caroline

    I have learned a lot in the past few months. I care about what’s happening politically in our country, and this blog provides great information about what extremist Christians have been doing and are currently doing to change the laws of our land. Knowledge is power as they say, and I feel better informed because of the comments I’ve seen posted here and the personal perspectives you’ve shared.

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  7. Byroniac

    Wow! I made the 2019 list. I am honored.

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  8. Ian for a long time

    Looks like I might have made the all time list. I changed my name on here because I saw that a couple of other Ians posted semi-regularly. So, not sure if that is me or someone else.

    I don’t comment as much as I would like to, but some things evoke stronger responses than others.

    Also, I don’t necessarily agree with everything I read here, so I just keep moving on my merry way. As you said, Bruce, this is your blog. So, I look at what you have to say, and think about it. Sometimes my mind is changed, other times it isn’t. That’s OK, though. This is a place to share and nasty arguments don’t have any positive effect on anyone.

    Thanks for writing. I appreciate it. I continue to share your blog with people that I think would appreciate it.

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  9. Julie S.

    I, too, enjoy your blog immensely, Bruce. I look forward to all your posts & read them voraciously. I began reading your blog in late 2015, being an ex-Fundy/ex-IFB. I have really learned so much from your blogs & all the good tips you give on what to read to become more in tune with what made you realize that Christianity is false. Definitely appreciate all your hard work!!

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  10. Ami

    The rule about using one name… huh. Guess I can’t use ‘Bruce’s Harem’ again. Although I only used it once, I’ve been sorely tempted to use it a few times since. 😀

    I appreciate you and your blog and your willingness to share how and why you think the way you do. I’m so grateful that I escaped the clutches of the crazy fundy bunch I was stuck with growing up.

    I still love my parents, and I know they think they were doing the right thing.
    But reading here has helped immensely to clarify my thinking.
    And quite often, either your writing or the commentary is hysterical.

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  11. GeoffT

    I changed from Geoff to GeoffT when another ‘Geoff’ came along, but I haven’t seen him for a while.

    I’m not really sure why I like coming here? I suppose it’s small, in terms of comment anyhow, but it’s describing such a massively different world from my own, intensely secular, UK existence. Plus I enjoy Bruce’s direct, no nonsense, approach.

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  12. Brian Vanderlip

    Thanks for keepin on keepin on with your blog, Bruce. There really aren’t enough people calling-out against the abuse that is evangelical faith. You do a strong job of it and I think that I have observed you benefitting from the self-expression yourself over the years. You speak more freely than ever before and your heart is open in your expression. Not all your expletives are deleted in the edit and I see that as a very natural growth out of fundamentalist extremes. It takes time to be able to swear freely and clearly. It takes some practice too and some of us like to practice a wee bit too much (but I am trying!)
    I also appreciate so many of the commenters who regularly pass by and offer something. I will not name any of you because I will surely forget to add all who are meaningful to me but well, just thank-you for taking a bit of time and saying what you feel/think. I have said before and still believe that as children we are abandoned for God, that our loving caregivers actively try to put God first rather than live naturally, humanly and allow their hearts to be claimed by their own family, their own progeny first and most. This is fundamentally wrong in my view, putting a delusion first and foremost and having to set your own children aside, your life-mate too. It isn’t a small thing to me. It is an abuse of humanity, a throwback to the caves. When I read here among you, I feel that there is less abandonment in me, more acceptance of the family I have lost and also a better sense of heart-family in the here and now. This place is my heart-cafe, sort-of, my reclamation diner, a place where I know I can sit myself down and be understood, not pitied, rejected, condemned. I can have a healthy lunch listening here! I was here anonymously for years but have claimed my last name back now. (Thanks for that too…)

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