Questions: How Would You Respond to Someone Who Rejects Your Advice?

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Anonymous asks:

How would you respond to someone who rejects the advice on your About page?

Let me be honest with you, I found this question to be strange. Not sure what to make of it.

On the About page, I offer the following advice:

If you had one piece of advice to give me, what would it be?

You have one life. There is no heaven or hell. There is no afterlife. You have one life, it’s yours, and what you do with it is what matters most. Love and forgive those who matter to you and ignore those who add nothing to your life. Life is too short to spend time trying to make nice with those who will never make nice with you. Determine who are the people in your life that matter and give your time and devotion to them. Live each and every day to its fullest. You never know when death might come calling. Don’t waste time trying to be a jack of all trades, master of none. Find one or two things you like to do and do them well. Too many people spend way too much time doing things they will never be good at.

Here’s the conclusion of the matter. It’s your life and you best get to living it. Someday, sooner than you think, it will be over. Don’t let your dying days be ones of regret over what might have been.

What would I say to someone who rejects this advice, Anonymous asks. The short answer is “okay, be well, my friend.” I give this advice freely, and whether someone accepts it or finds value in what I have written is up to them. If they don’t, no skin off my back. I am not some sort of deity declaring his law. I am just a feeble, frail, fucked-up man who has learned a few things in his sixty-two years of life. The aforementioned statement reflects my experiences and the lessons I have learned as I motor through my oh-so-short existence.

I try each day to live by these words. I am certain that come the end of the day, I have, to some degree or the other, failed. All I know to do is try again.

About Bruce Gerencser

Bruce Gerencser, 62, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 41 years. He and his wife have six grown children and twelve grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist. For more information about Bruce, please read the About page.

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4 Comments

  1. Brian Vanderlip

    Bruce the Almighty said: I am certain that come the end of the day, I have, to some degree or the other, failed. All I know to do is try again.

    My daughter has little more than a score of years under her belt thus far and she is searching for direction in life and career. She has several passionate interests that seem to cancel one another out when she tries to choose one over the other. I tell her, lucky you! Just choose one, maybe make a mistake but dedicate yourself to it for a time. Maintain all your passions as best you can during this dedicated time and understand that you will falter and fail but that is our foundation for living. Perfection is a fantastic construction that exists only in the mind, in our imaginings. To fail brilliantly is a lumious star in the night where only darkness reigned. It builds a foundation for being, for wholeness. Fail and flail, skip and trip, try and try again: Isn’t that living fully? Older now, I am still tripping anf falling. It hurts more and it takes longer to get up again, to recover. When I trip, that old commercial selling a panic button to old folks comes to mind: “I’ve fallen,” calls out an elderly woman. “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” As I struggle back to my feet, I am chuckling at the sound of her voice in my head. She is a faithful companion, always there, always dependably herself…. so unlike the absent fantasy Gawd and his boy.

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  2. ObstacleChick

    You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.

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  3. Michael Mock

    I think how you deal with someone who doesn’t take your advice is, at least in a small way, a test of character. I say this because I know people who simply cannot accept that someone else might hear their advice and then choose to do something else. And I think that the baseline for a mature response is to recognize that even if your advice was brilliant and completely correct, their decision remains their decision. It’s not yours to make.

    TL/DR: Good answer, my friend.

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  4. Sarah Leitner

    The friendship is very important, Bruce, with my 19 year old diagnosed with fibromyalgia yesterday

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