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Check Out Randy Withers’ Review of The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser

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Randy Withers, a licensed professional counselor and clinical addictions specialist, recently wrote a review of The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser. Randy wrote:

Bruce Gerencser is an avid and prolific blogger who lives in rural Ohio with his wife of more than four decades. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for 25 years in three different states but left the ministry in 2005. In 2008 he left Christianity as well. He now considers himself a humanist and an atheist.

His blog is about that journey, and why and how he chose the path he did. His blog, by the way, is enormous. He’s got something like 3,000 separate entries. I mean, good lord.

Bruce Gerencser is my hero. For one thing, he’s got a huge readership, many of whom are pissed off Evangelicals who seem to believe that Bruce just needs a stern talking to about his errant ways.

Bruce does a great job of interacting with his readers in the comment section of his blog, which he both reads and moderates. I’m impressed by this, given the sheer vitriol that many of his Christian readers express towards some of his life decisions. He has the patience of Job (sorry for the reference, Bruce), and a matter-of-fact wit that is straight-up hysterical.

You can read the rest of the review here.

I appreciate Randy’s kind and thoughtful words. Finally, someone who appreciates my sense of humor.  As far as his critique of this site’s ancient theme, he is right. Readers can expect a new theme and design in the near future — that is, if the rapture doesn’t take place first. Well, come to think of it, I will be left behind when Jesus comes to gather up his chosen ones, so I’ll have plenty of time to work on a new theme.

Please check out Randy’s website, especially 10 of the Absolute Best Mental Health Blogs You Need to Start Reading in 2020.

Here’s to a mentally healthy 2020.


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    Becky Wiren

    Finally! You get a well-deserved positive review. I was afraid it was going to be by a Christian counselor, offended by your critiques of Christian counselors. Well done.

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    Great review.
    I also enjoy your sense of humor. Perhaps we’re both sick.

    I’m okay with how your blog looks except there’s too much orange, which is one of my least-favorite colors. 😀

    My mental health is greatly improved by blogging, actually.
    Considering an anonymous blog where I can REALLY say what I think, though.
    But then I wonder, what if it really takes off because I *know* a lot of people have gone through the same shit… and I can’t take credit for the writing?!?

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    Randy Withers

    Hi Bruce and thank you very very very much for the shout-out with respect to my review of your site. Your work absolutely blows me away. I’m going to send you a little award badge that every site I reviewed received in case you\d like to use it along with your other accolades. Keep fighting. Your work is incredibly important. If you have not already, I highly recommend The Atheist Experience on Youtube, on the off chance you’ve never heard of them. I have no affiliation with them, but if they haven’t had you as a guest, they really should. Link:

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      Randy, you’re awesome!! It’s so refreshing reading a positive review about this site from a mental health professional!

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    I must have hit your site as you were changing themes. I had a couple of different tabs open and they were orange and a couple that were blue.

    I was quite confused after reading the blue ones to see some orange ones until I refreshed them and got the new theme on them.

    If it matters, I think the Blue theme is more appealing.

    I am a Christian.

    I would like to dis-associate myself from Evangelicalism, but that is a bit hard to do when attending that type of church.

    I have never had much interest in evangelizing anyone.

    I did not vote for Trump.

    I believe that God exists. That said, I also realize that I could be wrong. Perhaps all religions are an inevitable result of our physiology/biology/ignorance.

    Perhaps this is detailed somewhere and I simply missed it in my reading or perhaps it is not there by design. I was wondering though, how did your journey impact your wife? Was she largely at the same place on the same journey from faith to none?

    How did you communicate your changes in faith to your younger children? Or were all your kids adults by the time you started transitioning away from faith?

    I ask because I am early in my journey. I don’t know where it will lead, but at this stage I am reticent to express any of it to our 7 year old.

    If you would rather not approve this post or respond I understand.


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      Brian Vanderlip

      Afterburne, Regarding your 7 year old: Please continue to believe in your child and allow them to be included in your life of questioning. It is very human to question and to share your heart with your loved ones. There are nuances that will be lost on a youngster but there is nothing good about hiding yourself. Perhaps you could talk on the child’s level about how sometimes things seem one way and then sometimes another. Children are quite open and their curiosity, when it is satisfied, just allows them to move on to the next thing in their day. The main thing I am trying to express here is the idea of connection, a loving parent connecting with their child. If the expression is too complicated, the child will let you know by losing interest or expressing that they have heard enough. Perhaps one way to begin is by looking for a children’s book that is a introduction to world religions. Try to avoid the exclusive books that call every form of belief but Christianity a cult and the devil’s work. A spirit of curiosity is a wonderful thing to share! Best wishes!

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    Hi Brian,

    Thanks for the reply. There are some good observations/suggestions there.

    I try not to look too far askance at other religions as there are elements of truth and wisdom and less than truth or wisdom in all of them. I have never paid much attention to resources that trash other belief systems (whether that be religious or political). The sad state of our current political discourse is a good example of what the inability to see another’s viewpoint results in.

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      I should add that I don’t think Christianity is without its areas of less than truth or less than wisdom.

      I would also add a clarification on the “too” askance. The fact is, I am biased and tribal just like every other human, but I would like to think I transcend that at least a little bit and certainly try to.

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