An Evangelical man named Will sent me an email today about a post I wrote in 2015 that took a close look at the finances of the American Family Association (AFA). Titled, Follow the Money: The American Family Association and their Support of the Gay Agenda, I took a deep dive into the incomes and expenditures of the AFA. I found that the AFA, a virulently homophobic group, was financially supporting several LGBTQ-friendly United Methodist churches.
According to the site server logs, Will, read the aforementioned post for five minutes before accessing the contact page. Afterward, Will was served the front page of nine posts, but I have no idea if he read any of them. As far as posts about the AFA?? One post — that’s it. Keep that in mind when you read his email. (I sent Will a link to this post. Of course, he used a fake email address.)
Here’s what Will had to say. My response is indented and italicized.
Bruce,
It sounds like you don’t like the folks at AFA from your many derogatory adjectives.
Hmm.
Hmm, indeed. I re-read the eight year old article, looking for what you call “many derogatory adjectives.” You must have a very different definition of “many” from mine. I wrote that the AFA is: anti-abortion, anti-homosexual, anti-same-sex marriage, and anti-secular agenda. These are factual descriptions of the AMA, so I am perplexed as to why you think they are derogatory. If it walks, talks, and acts like a duck, it is a duck, and the AFA is a quacking duck if there ever was one. If you think these descriptions are wrong, please provide evidence for your claim. If not, I will assume you are just making shit up.
As far as “liking” the Wildmons and others who operate the American Family Association, no I don’t like them. I could say the same of any number of Evangelical preachers, churches, and parachurch organizations. I don’t like the St. Louis Cardinals either.
I suspect you are an AFA fanboy. I doubt that you “like” me. We all have likes and dislikes. Or are you one of those Christians who can only see the specks in the eyes of others and not the beam in your own? (Matthew 7:3)
Does that make you a “ good hater?”
I have no idea what you are talking about. Christians such as yourself are commanded to hate, and your deity is well known for his hatred. I, as a lowly, ignorant atheist, don’t hate people. I have no time for hate. I suspect that you, as many of my Evangelical critics, mistake pointed, forceful, direct critique as “hate.” That’s the problem with Evangelicals these days. Many of them are snowflakes, quickly butthurt and offended. If Evangelicals are going to drag their beliefs into the public square, then they should expect pushback. That’s how the Internet works.
You could have responded to my article, challenging my conclusions. Instead, you call me a “hater,” a claim for which you provided no evidence. You could have said all sorts of things to me, including sharing the Word of God with me or witnessing to me. Instead, you come off as yet another butthurt Christian, upset that I dared to talk out of school about the AFA and their money. Again, please point out where my article is factually wrong.
Live and do as you wish, but I’m always amazed at the hypocrisy folks like you express. You claim you’re diverse and honor diversity, but then you go through life attacking people different from you.
Again, you confuse “attack” with critique. If you want to see what “real” attack looks like, please read a few of the plethora of emails I have received from your fellow tribe members. Constant threats of Hell, death threats, attacks on my family, you name it, I have heard it from the followers of the Prince of Peace.
Please provide evidence for your claim that I “go through life attacking people different from me.”
Wow.
Wow, what, exactly? Your response to me is confusing. You read all of one post before contacting me; an investigatory article, not an opinion piece. Maybe I could understand your response if you had made a serious faith effort to read my writing, but you didn’t. Let me share with you a bit of advice from the Bible: Answering before listening is both stupid and rude. (Proverbs 18:13) I suggest you read the About page and the Why? page. Then you might be ready to judge my character.
Since you live in Ohio I imagine you go driving around and run Amish buggies off the road because they’re different from you.
Surely, Will, you are not this stupid. I have lived near Amish communities for much of my adult life. I pastored in southeast Ohio for eleven years. I had Amish-Mennonite neighbors, and their church was less than two miles away from my home. Our family attended numerous services at their church. I did business with them and had more than a few passionate theological discussions with them. They considered me their English friend.
Today, we live twenty minutes or so from a large Amish community. I admire their hard work agrarian lifestyle, and commitment to family. Yes, they are different from me, but I would never think of running one of their buggies off the road. I am surrounded by Evangelical Christians. I would never run their cars or trucks off the road either.
Bad analogy, Will, bad analogy, but let me run with it for a minute.
The Amish have never harmed me or my family in any way. They have never harmed my friends or acquaintances either. The Amish are the epitome of live and let live.
The AFA and Evangelicals by extension are nothing like the Amish. (Please see New Evangelical Term Used in the War Against Culture: A Canary in the Coal Mine.) Evangelicals are busy waging a zero-sum culture war against LGBTQ people, same-sex marriage, gender-affirming hormone therapy, gender reassignment surgery, abortion, reproductive rights, wokeness, books, birth control, sex education, evolution, socialism, humanism, and atheism. I am not talking about differences of opinion. Will, I wish you had expressed why you disagreed with me. Then, maybe, we could have had a discussion. Evangelicals have one goal in mind: theocracy. In their minds, the United States is a Christian nation (it’s not), and they intend to use the power of the state to establish Jesus as Lord and King and the Bible as the law of the land.
Evangelicalism is not a benign sect. Its teachings and practices have caused psychological and, at times, physical harm. This blog is a testimony to the fact that Evangelicalism can and does cause harm. The office waiting rooms of therapists are filled with clients harmed by Evangelical beliefs and practices. You don’t know this, of course, because the harm has been normalized for you. Until you break free from the bubble, you will never know how damaging life within the bubble really is.
If Evangelicals reach their theocratic goals, freedoms will be lost and people will die. Do you really think Evangelicals have the best interests of LGBTQ people at heart; that they have any intention of practicing “live and let live?” Not a chance.
No sir, you sir are the hater and you make it very publicly clear whom you hate.
I hope you realize by now that your judgment of me is incorrect; that you mistake passion for hate. Here’s a test for you. Please read Why I Hate Jesus. After you do, send me an email answering the question: who or what do I hate? Let’s see if you get it.
Saved by Reason,
Bruce Gerencser, 67, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 46 years. He and his wife have six grown children and sixteen grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist.
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He doesn’t accept that he and those like him are the intolerant people who want everyone else to behave in ways he deems proper. He thinks this is ok. And as a result, he believes that someone who would love to live in a world where everyone can coexist and live their lives, must also tolerate the intolerant people like him. He cannot grasp that in order to be tolerant and coexist, you cannot tolerate intolerance. This especially applies to the intolerance of fundamentalist Christians.
All because he is 100 percent sure that his way is the only way to live and behave.
This is why I’m so frequently hearing a new take on “I don’t have enough faith to be an atheist”: “I don’t have enough hate to be a Christian”.
Good points about the Amish. While I may not hold their beliefs, by and large they also want to be left alone and therefore typically leave the English alone, but also are welcoming (depending on the ordnung of the particular community that is) to English visitors. They are not without their problems though. I watch a You Tuber who grew up in a ln extremely conservative Amish community in north central Ohio. He has made it his mission to expose abuse happening in the the hardcore communities including religious abuse, while still affirming more moderate versions of plain-communities.
The Amish annoy me intently, with their convenient piety and their ability to ‘steal” from the modern world what they want without contributing to it. Also there is a very long history of child abuse. There has to be a way to shut down these kind of nut jobs.
I’d be embarrassed to say the things this guy said to you. Bullshit, of course, but incredibly mean-spirited bullshit. There is no dialog or reasoning with people like him, I think your well thought out response to him won’t help him do better.
However, maybe someone who’s questioning and trying to learn and be open may derive some benefit from what you’ve said.
That’s the only use for bigots and sanctimonious assholes like Will, I guess. To serve as a lesson to others.
Let’s all try to hate the bigotry without hating the bigot, shall we? 😉
I wonder how “Will” feels about LGBTQ people, or immigrants, or people who are not part of his particular religious group. Does he think they are evil or lesser than or somehow flawed? He probably wouldn’t admit to “hating” them, but his attitudes toward them may constitute what most of us would consider hate to look like.
I am not a fan of religious separatist groups because I think they deprive their members of critical educational opportunities and often harbor abusive tendencies. But I don’t hate the people in those groups (I am actually fascinated by them and go out of my way to seek shows, videos, articles, books, etc, on those groups).
This “Will” seems to be fixated on hate.
I am also fascinated and have been for awhile by the Amish, Mennonite, German Baptist, etc. particularly in seeing how each group adapts to the society at large. I have to admit a few times I wanted to get rid of my “English clothes” and start dressing like them. I think the fascination comes from this impression that they seem detached from our modern problems both technologically and culturally. Steve is right though there are increasingly more reports of abuse within the uber conservative communities.
I guess to me tolerating and actually accommodating the Amish (I mean the horse and buggies, etc, not the abuse) is a test of a secular society’s commitment to it’s principles- not favoring religious practice but also not attempting to oppress it either. So someone who does not practice a religious faith or belief in a deity still cares about the safety and well-being of someone who wishes to live like the Amish so long as they try to be a decent citizen in a pluralistic society. I also get that there are several complicated “intersections” when it comes to rights, responsibilities,etc. but Bruce illustrated this point well in his rebuttal to this so-called follower of Christ accusing him of targeting Amish buggy drivers.
I am admittedly naive, but I think respecting the dignity of each person regardless of how we may feel about them personally (or how they feel about us) is the high road and the way forward.
Hey, Will. Just where do you get this nutty idea that Bruce harasses Amish buggy drivers with his car ?! It’s illegal to do such things, and it would have been in the media by now, if this claim of yours was actually true. You ARE aware of this fact, right ?? You’re so busted, you ding- dong!!🤣
John S, you discussed this quite well, parsing the desire to respect a segregated religious group while not tolerating known abuse.
Recently, I watched the movie “Women Talking”, a fictional account of women discussing how to handle abuse in their segregated society. The script handled a lot of interesting philosophical questions quite well.
will is this stupid. He thrashes around desperate to find something to hate.
Despite the problems in the Amish community, they have one good viewpoint: unlike RW Christian nationalists, they have no desire to get into politics and force the entire country into becoming Amish. No attempts to ban cars, computers, no attempts to force the fashion industry to make only Amish clothing. No banning books, no effort to interfere with other’s healthcare choices. Compare that to Florida, Texas, all the red states. And most people leave them alone, because, much as we disagree with their culture, they have a right to live it. And we have a right to criticize Christianity.