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Catholic Church Forbids Sex for Civilly Divorced and Remarried Couples


Archbishop Charles Chaput, head of the Roman Catholic Church in Philadelphia, reminded civilly divorced and remarried Catholic couples that they are NOT allowed to engage in sexual intercourse. Those who ignore Catholic teaching on divorce and remarriage, according to Archbishop Chaput, and have sex are committing adultery and are not permitted to take communion. CBS News reports:

The head of the Roman Catholic Church in Philadelphia is closing the door opened by Pope Francis to letting civilly remarried Catholics receive Communion, saying the faithful in his archdiocese can only do so if they abstain from sex and live “as brother and sister.”

Archbishop Charles Chaput, who is known for strongly emphasizing strict adherence to Catholic doctrine, issued a new set of pastoral guidelines for clergy and other leaders in the archdiocese that went into effect July 1. The guidelines reflect a stance taken by St. John Paul II.

Civilly remarried couples must have their previous marriages annulled before they can receive the Sacrament of Penance and eat the body of Christ and drink his blood. Having had a son and daughter-in-law go through the annulment process, I think I can safely say that Catholic marriage annulment is a way for the Church to get around the teachings of the Bible. Using theological sleight of hand and a mountain of paperwork, civilly divorced Catholics can have the Church wave a magic wand over their marriages and VIOLA! the marriage is jettisoned into outer space, never to heard of again. My wife and I, along with several of our older children, had to sign papers of behalf of my son, stating that has past marriage was defective and that he is of good moral character. I signed the papers because my son and daughter-in-law — who are already civilly married — can be viewed as married in the eyes of Church. I told them, at the time, that I thought the whole marriage annulment process was bullshit — a wink-wink, pretend-pretend act that says a previous marriage never took place. The things we do for our children.

It is  time for the Catholic Church to enter the 21st century. While some people see Pope Francis as a reformer, patiently dragging Neanderthals such as Archbishop Chaput into the modern era, I tend to see a man who is long on words and short on concrete action. The Pope says all the right things, but within the walls of Catholic Churches things remain just as they have been for the past hundred years. I will believe Pope Francis is a serious reformer when he issues papal decrees allowing women to be priests, same-sex couples to be married, and allows civilly divorced and remarried Catholics to be members in good standing — allowing them to take communion. I will believe the Pope is serious about reform when he roots out every last child abuser from within the Vatican and Catholic parishes. The Pope talks about the importance of good works, yet he himself is long on words and short on works. If Pope Francis wants to show that he truly cares about Catholic parishioners, how about telling Archbishop Chaput to shut the fuck up and stop attacking civilly divorced and remarried couples. And if the Archbishop refuses to obey the Vicar of Christ? Remove him from office. If the Catholic Church ever hopes to stop hemorrhaging members, it must embrace 21st century life, complete with its changing gender roles and sexual practices.

Millions of Roman Catholics are civilly divorced and remarried. Many of them hide their marital past from the church, thus allowing them to take communion. Suggesting as Archbishop Chaput does that these couples should sleep in the same bed night after night without engaging in sexual intercourse is absurd. To avoid adultery, civilly divorced and remarried couples are required to treat each other like siblings. As I read Chaput’s words, “undertaking to live as brother and sister is necessary for the divorced and civilly remarried to receive reconciliation in the Sacrament of Penance, which could then open the way to the Eucharist,” I thought, the Catholic Church is promoting incest.

By the way, there are Evangelical sects who hold to a similar view on divorce and remarriage. I plan to write a post on this subject at a later date.


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    As a life long catholic, that pronouncement from the Archbishop does not surprise me in the least. Just one more nail in the religious coffin for me. The Magic Wand Wave is a running joke in RC parishes. I had to sign papers from my BIL, also.

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    I look upon anyone in the Catholic Church talking about sex and marriage with the same contempt I reserve for some idiot who’s afraid the water thinking they can teach swimming. Or someone who’s afraid of flying and teaching about airplanes.

    On of the local “Muslims, Gays, Commies and Obama’s Going to Get us Radio Stations”, oops I mean one of the local Christian stations, had a Catholic Bishop waxing lyrical about his insights into sex and marriage as a guest and probably wondering why his book is not flying off the shelves. Religious delusion, sigh.

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    Karen the rock whisperer

    The Catholic church is not going to change, at least not fundamentally. It is far, far too lumbered by its own traditions, and the need to keep the institution itself intact and thriving. The current Pope is a kind-hearted individual, but that by itself doesn’t make for reform. Besides, you don’t get to be an archbishop (the only people ever in line to be pope) without having a long history of toeing the party line and a strong commitment to the institution of the church.

    As someone who was raised Catholic, I cringe whenever some bishop gets on the news by proclaiming some stupidity. Way to go, Bishop! Load bullets, aim at the Church’s collective foot, fire! But it will take a lot of holes in that foot to chase off the faithful. So far they seem to be navigating with the damaged foot just fine.

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    J.D. Matthews

    It’s so nice now that I no longer give a flying fuck what these blowhards in fancy dresses and silly hats have to say.

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