Over the years, I have responded to thousands of emails and comments from Evangelical Christians, including those who are part of the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church movement. After thirteen years of swimming in the Evangelical swamp, I have learned a few things:
- No matter what I write, Evangelical zealots are going to reject what I say
- No matter what I say, Evangelical zealots are going to dismiss my story out of hand
- No matter how I treat Evangelical zealots, they will continue to smear my name, attack my character, and shit on my doorstep
I have also learned that Evangelical zealots have little regard or respect for me as a person. I ask commenters to follow the comment guidelines, and many people do. However, Evangelical zealots seem to think that the rules don’t apply to them; that they have a right to say whatever they want; that they have a message to deliver to me straight from the mouth of God. Thus, zealots believe they can verbally assault me and those I love, and I should just roll over and be nice to them. And if I don’t, I am accused of being just like the IFB preachers I oppose.
Here’s what I know: I respond directly and honestly with commenters on this blog, people who send me emails, or message me on social media. Don’t believe me? Ask Carolyn, my editor. She reads my email responses and comments. She will tell you I am kind and thoughful in my responses as long as people treat me in kind. However, if someone starts with condemning me to Hell, attacking my character, or verbally assaulting me, I am likely to give them what regular readers call the “Bruce Gerencser Treatment.” Ask honest questions or make comments worthy of a response, and I will do my best to patiently and kindly respond to you.
The sad truth is this: many Evangelicals cannot (or refuse to) play well with others — especially people associated with the IFB church movement. I am at a place in life where I am no longer willing to invest any emotional capital in trying to “reach” them. My goal has always been to help people who have doubts and questions about Christianity or who are no longer believers. While my writing has been instrumental in more than a few Evangelicals leaving the faith, that’s never been my objective.
I will continue to help people in any way I can. Piss in my corn flakes? You reap what you sow.
Bruce Gerencser, 67, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 46 years. He and his wife have six grown children and thirteen grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist.
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To reiterate: these types come here, are overly personal while knowing nothing, make assumptions, assume we are doomed and that we are knowingly sinning (ha ha, I live a more mature, stable life than most Christians.) And then want to be well treated. Forget it.
And when I cut them off here, they turn to Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube to harass me. And when I cut them off there too, they search out other sites that mention me and leave comments, often using fake names. I can’t stop them from doing this, but I sure as Hell won’t let them attack me in my own house.
You’re really getting to them. I hope you can block them everywhere so at least you don’t have to see that crap too much. It’s amazing to me as you don’t strike me as an atheist firebrand condemning all Christians, just the practice of cult-like fundamentalists. You’re friendly, caring, and even kind. Wait, aren’t those the people propping up MAGAverse? Rude, nasty, anti-vaxxing narcissists rampaging around the country? Never mind.
You know Bruce, you really should be nicer. In fact, I will offer my assistance to help you, and share with you the techniques I use to make sure every interaction with christians is nice, and pleasant, and happy, and… ok..right.. never mind. I’m maybe not the best example. sigh
I think you handle each person individually, basically returning to them the energy they bring to you. If people are polite and truly seeking knowledge, then you share nicely. But if they come in judging or attacking, they will get it back as deserved.
Evangelicals by definition view us as tools of Satan, “lost”, sinful, dirty, other, outside the Fold, should I go on? They don’t have to be nice to us, they just have to convince us to turn. And when we don’t they go to treating us like disease-ridden rats.
The main way that you know that you’re doing something right is when a-sholes are angry at you.