Now that same-sex marriage is legal in all fifty states, Evangelicals are trying to figure out how to explain marriage to their children. They dare not say that marriage is based on love, commitment, and sacrifice because that would be admitting that same-sex couples are legitimately married. Greg Gibson, the executive editor and communications director for the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood and family ministries pastor at Foothills Church in Knoxville, Tennessee, recently wrote an article titled Parenting in a Gay Marriage World: What Should Christian Parents Do? Gibson gives ten suggestions for talking to little Christian Johnny or Suzie about marriage, especially same-sex marriage:
- Talk honestly and openly about sin, homosexuality, and gay marriage with your children.
- Model to your children a marriage that is a picture of the gospel.
- Teach your children the biblical foundations for marriage.
- Teach your children the biblical foundations for sex.
- Protect your children from the influences of pornography.
- Pray fervently for and with your children.
- Partner with a gospel-centered local church that will come alongside you and teach the truths of Scripture.
- Teach your children biblical gender roles.
- Train your children towards courageous biblical manhood and womanhood.
- Don’t panic. Trust in God. He is still in control. His plan will still win.
In others words, cram the fundamentalist Christian interpretation of the Bible down their throats, pray for them, take them to church, train them to be good little complementarians, and don’t let them anywhere near a computer where they can access porn sites. And if teenage Johnny or Suzie turn out gay anyway? Well, “Don’t panic, trust in God, he is still in control and his plan will still win.” Except it won’t. God is no match for genetics and sexual desire. Just ask Ted Haggard.
Note
Foothills Church is affiliated with the Southern Baptist Convention.
Hi Bruce,
If a child is born gay, it is futile for Fundamentalist parents to think that any amount religious brainwashing and religious modeling by the parents can turn them into heterosexual adults. Being gay is NOT a choice.
Shalom,
John Arthur
As someone said on Facebook, the number of gays that were once Evangelical is quite large. All the preaching in the world didn’t change them.
But Bruce! Ted Haggard is completely heterosexual!!