Before feminism and birth control, children were valued in America. The woman’s place in the home was valued and so was the man’s place as protector and provider. America was founded upon biblical principles and this is what made it great for many years because God’s ways are good, and acceptable, and perfect. Most today, even Christians, don’t value children and think that having only a few children is all couples should have.
This mindset is from feminism and birth control (Margaret Sanger – an agent of Satan) which influenced women to believe that it was their right to be liberated from the “tyranny” of reproduction and domesticity. Is this belief from God and is it biblical or is it from something sinister and evil; women being convinced they should have full control over their childbearing as the feminist’s leaders who hated marriage and children proudly proclaimed?
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University of Oklahoma historian, Robert Griswold, cited an article published in the San Mateo Gazette in the mid-19th century that states, ‘Woman is set in the household and man is sent out into the world.’ Even a woman of modest means could ‘be happy in the love of her husband, her home, and its beautiful duties without asking the world for its smiles and favors,’ the article argued.’”
Women weren’t dissatisfied in their homes up until and through the 19th century, because this was all they knew. They knew their God-ordained role. Divorce was low. Children were plentiful and were being raised by their mothers from intact homes. Children were valued and most grew up to be emotionally stable and secure. Many families weren’t considered “wealthy” in terms of finances but they were considered wealthy in terms of what matters in life. (I am not trying to romanticize this time in history since I know full well that sin existed and was alive and well but simply pointing out a time in American history when roles were clearly defined and culture at large was better and safer since families were much stronger than they are today.)
— Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife, When Women Were Happy in the Home Without the World’s Smiles and Favors, November 23, 2018
“Before feminism and birth control, children were valued in America.”
Yes indeed. They worked the land and grew into great big, strong slaves.
“America was founded upon biblical principles…”
No it wasn’t, it was deliberately founded on secular principles. Read your constitution.
“Most today, even Christians, don’t value children and think that having only a few children is all couples should have.”
Actually having fewer children means you might value them more.
“Divorce was low.”
For women getting the shit beat out of them was high.
“Children were valued and most grew up to be emotionally stable and secure.”
Children had little value, other than their ability to help feed the family when they were just old enough. Oh, and many didn’t grow up, which is why women were expected to have so many.
“I am not trying to romanticize this time in history…”
You do it constantly.
This woman is dangerous. At a time when the population of the world is increasing beyond what it can ever hope to support it’s important for rational people to oppose this type of insanity as strongly as they can.
Geoff, you’ve just said what I felt like saying too. Thank you.
“I’m not trying to romanticize this time in history. . .” That’s all she ever does. People mired in poverty to a large extent because they had too many children to support. Violence and abuse in marriages and child abuse within the home: these things were common, just hidden away or denied.
A couple of times I posted this on Lori’s blog: no point, she only publishes stuff that endorses her views. And she is constantly saying (to her readers) “If you don’t like what I’m saying, take it up with God.” That is the language and tactics of a bully.
What GeoffT says sums it up nicely. Lori is teaching revisionist history, one that glorifies women and children having no rights and living at the mercy of a master. That she promotes the idea that women should purposely give up their rights is appalling.
If women are stressed out and unhappy it’s because the super ultrarich skewed the economy so that rents are stupid high and it takes two people to support a family and even if you have access to FEMLA its only 12 weeks, only six of which are on disability at 75% of your pay. Then when you do go back daycare can eat up 2/3 of your take home pay. Oh and if you stop out and quit, or get let go for trumped up reasons so you give up and stay home, why then you are stale, lazy, not a go-getter and getting your next job will be a challenge.
So, as Bill Clinton said in the 1990’s “It’s the economy, stupid!” it’s still the economy! Not our secular nation and not the advance of women’s rights.
Oh wait, I forgot about how they want to make quality clinical birth control stupid expensive. Fortunately that may take a while…well except in SOME places.
“Before feminism and birth control, children were valued in America. The woman’s place in the home was valued and so was the man’s place as protector and provider.” This was remarkably true for one beloved couple in my family. The trade-off? They were POOR. And they knew why: the lady of the house did not have a paying job. Things that made them better than today’s Christian cultural enforcers? They wanted their children to have a good education and financial security. They did not remove their children from the schools and economy. They knew the difference between their legal rights and their notion of Christian duty. They viewed Christian duty as a personal choice, not some weird set of national obligations that would protect the US from God’s Wrath.
My father was born in 1912 to a working-class immigrant family in Superior, Wi. His mother didn’t work outside, but she had five kids to raise and did a lot of cousin childcare as well. My mother was born in 1920, the third of six children on a farm in southeastern MN. Both my parents were raised with the idea that everybody works. Dad started his paper route when he was quite young, and Mom was working on the farm as soon as she could toddle.
My mother waited tables while my father squeezed a four-year degree into three years after he returned from WWII. Then they joined an accounting firm, Dad as an accountant and Mom as a bookkeeper. When I came along, they used a trusted older friend as childcare for a few years, and then Mom started to work remotely from home. As soon as I was old enough, I was helping in the family business as well (Dad had bought the business by this time). During the first quarter of the year, which is a particularly busy time for accountants, I took over a lot of the domestic chores around the house.
Everybody works, everyone supports the family in some way, stuff has to get done. I carried that attitude forward. Now, tell me again about this fantasy world where women keep the home and only men work? Oh, and while you’re at it, explain why my grandmothers had to endure dangerous late-age pregnancies, and why that was better than using birth control?
The Barbaric Belief Virus strikes again. Let there be a new anti-viral to fight the Lori-flu!