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Christians Say the Darnedest Things: Men Want Skinny Women With Long Hair

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It seems men aren’t allowed to have preferences in this feminist culture that offend women, as I found out quickly on my Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgin post. A man who goes by The Multibeast on Twitter wrote this: “Long hair, sundress, no tattoos, clean skin, carefree attitude, caring demeanor, ability to make things beautiful, nurturing, kind, values family, no ‘ax to grind’ = the most powerful thing on planet earth. Has ALL the chips. Can write her own ticket. Nothing is more powerful.” Of course, women were highly offended when I shared it on my social media sites.

Another man on my Gab account wrote this under The Multibeast’s tweet that I had shared:

“I’ll share a secret with you ladies. If you want to be more attractive than 90% of women in your age bracket, there are only two things you have to do:

“- Keep your weight down
“- Keep your hair long

“Do not worry about nails, makeup, hair treatments, skin care, jewelry, shoes, purses, or fashion. My wife spends no money on the above because none of them are important. She keeps her hair long and her weight around 120 pounds, because these are extremely important.

“I know young women 100 pounds overweight who spend a fortune on makeup and hair products and wonder why they can’t find a husband. Just do the two things above, save thousands, and look better than most women easily.”

This too, offended many women. “How could he think all women should be 120 pounds?” and many other comments explaining how wrong his comment was.

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Then, a man on my Instagram wrote the following:

“If a woman does NOT care to try to please her husband the best she can, then you’re right, this post isn’t helpful. It is definitely Biblical though. I will explain.

“Does not even nature itself teach you that… if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her?” (1 Corinthians 11)

“Long hair is a sign of feminine beauty in numerous places in the Bible, both in the Old Testament and the New. Men were NEVER condemned for wanting physically desirable women in the Bible, only for focusing on that AT THE EXPENSE of more important things. Jacob was never condemned for desiring the more beautiful, Rachel, over Leah. Both were good women, but one was younger and prettier according to the Word of God. If Rachel had been a harlot, I bet Jacob would’ve been scolded for desiring her above Leah. Likewise, women are never condemned for wanting men who have a greater ability to provide and protect.

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“Lori ASSUMES her followers (if they aren’t already married) are interested in attracting the best husbands, and the best naturally have more options in women. So she assumes women would want to be spend their time on things that have higher value versus lower value. She also assumes that her followers want to please their husbands, as the above scripture instructs. If her assumptions are correct, then it’s also fair that she assume women would want to know the MOST important outwardly attractive things to men. That’s an economically logical conclusion in ANY context in which a resource, such as time, is limited. ‘Here’s how to get the most out of your time and effort.’

“For example, if you’ve only got 30 minutes per day to invest in activities to either: 1) maximize your market value to potential future husbands by making you more desirable than other women, or to 2) pleasing your existing husband, better to use those 30 minutes to get a quick workout in than to paint your nails or put on your makeup. I have nothing against makeup and nails or anything else feminine, I love ALL the feminine stuff, but some things are simply more valuable than others.

“I don’t normally try to speak for large groups of people, but if there is absolutely anything in the WORLD I would do it, it’s this. Lori is 100 percent right. In the eyes of men, these two things are far more important than any other outward-appearance efforts women can make. Truth is always useful, whether it is Biblical or not, but here, it is Biblical. (A fair assumption in any context in which a resource, such as time, is limited.)

— Lori Alexander, The Transformed Wife, Men Aren’t Allowed Preferences That Offend Women, February 5, 2022

From the comment section:

Feeriker:

Young North American women today seem to go out of their way to make themselves as repulsive to men as possible, both with their bodies and their personalities. Tats, piercings (in inappropriate and potentially dangerous places other than their ears), and excess body weight that they defiantly have no intention of bringing under control are the physical repellent. A perpetually angry, defensive, arrogant, hate-filled attitude is the even more hideous behavioral repellent. It is unfathomable to me how the amount of emotional energy required to maintain this front cannot be a painful burden to carry. How can it not perpetuate both mental AND physical illness?

Mick:

I will make sure any future wife of mine has these amazing qualities. It shows a lack of control if they are fat. Ugh. They will dress to please me, no lying around in sloppy clothes. Christian women have a absolute duty to do this for their husband. It is soul destroying to see women who are overweight, with short trendy hair, colored very strangely and clothes that are totally inappropriate in a Church. Stay away from them, gentlemen!

Cassandra:

It’s truth that you are not allowed to say out loud. I am not a young woman, but instead of getting manicures and caring about shoes and clothes, I work-out and stay in shape. I do keep my face and hair attractive too. But before anything else comes my fitness routine. Men are far more attracted to me than my overweight peers, who have problems getting a second date. It’s the obvious truth, but I certainly shall not use my full name on this comment.

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Bruce Gerencser, 65, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 44 years. He and his wife have six grown children and thirteen grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist.

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8 Comments

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    Astreja

    Ah, but what if I have no interest in a a man who’s obsessed with skinny long-haired women? The louts commenting on Alexander the Grating’s social media are the very people I want to repel.

    And what’s that folderol about the “market value” of a woman? SMH

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    Lacy

    I wish I hadn’t read that nonsense and just went about my business. That level of misogyny and toxic masculinity made my blood boil, so I had to leave a comment. I’m pretty sure it won’t make it to their thread, but I had to give them a little something from a repulsive, overweight, middle-aged divorced woman “with an ax to grind”. I hope they enjoyed the F-Bombs. I think I’ll eat some chocolate and die my hair blue for added measure. Seems to be the repellent to keep the jerks away.

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    MJ Lisbeth

    Increasing my “market value” by losing weight, growing my hair longer and being agreeable? What market is he talking about? Here I was, thinking that I would increase my “market value” by getting an education and otherwise broadening my horizons. Silly me.

    When I say what I’m about to say, I don’t intend it as “man bashing.” Here goes: If men are indeed dogs, they want meat on their bones. Or so the logical skills I gained while “increasing my market value” would tell me.

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    Sage

    Yeah..ok. I would assume the commenters who whine about the attitude of women fail to realize that their toxic, horrid views on women are the root of the women reacting to them as if they are vile, disgusting cretins.

    I am curious if Lori can explain the unwanted attention I get from men, including fine, upstanding, Christian men who are in a Christ centered marriage, when I am not young, or 120 pounds, or have long hair, and am very obviously an androgynous, non-binary person?

    It is almost like men, even Christian men, may desire much more than long hair and 120 pounds? And toxic men, like the men Lori seems to support, attempt to use the abusive, manipulative ways to control women?

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    ObstacleChick

    I am a good obstacle course racing athlete, and I am not 120 lbs so Lori and her commenters can shove this up their a$$es along with their misogyny and shallowness. Do these male commenters have a physique like Chris Hemsworth in the Thor movies? Can’t they take a half hour each day to lift weights and sculpt those pecs? Isn’t that the godly thing to do?

    I do not exist to please a man. Period.

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    missimontana

    I remember a lot of the church going men in my youth being fat and bald. Our neighbors and good friends from the church obviously didn’t take this advice. At home, they both hung around in shorts, tank tops, and flip flops. And, they were both elderly and overweight. They only dressed up for appropriate occasions; the wife’s everyday going out clothes were polyester stretch pants and T-shirts or plain tops. She had short hair. They were married 40+ years and are buried side by side. It seems like when you love someone, clothes and hair don’t matter. Funny, ain’t it?
    I can’t wait for a post telling men to work out and keep their weight down so they can be better providers by having the endurance to work longer and harder. Or to keep fit to be a better protector. I have a feeling I’ll be waiting a long time. After all, women are the one’s needing constant instruction, right?

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