One of the reasons given by atheists/agnostics for leaving Christianity is the belief that the Christian God doesn’t give a shit about those who devote their lives to following Jesus Christ. No matter how much time is expended in worship and service, God never says, thanks, good job, or I have your back. Why should he? According to Evangelical theology, Jesus, the sinless son of God, came to earth to atone for humankind’s sin. He suffered horrific brutality at the hands of the Romans. He was then, like a common thief, nailed to a cross. According to the Bible, Jesus was beaten to such a degree that it was hard to tell that he was a man. After hours of suffering, Jesus died. All of this was on behalf of sinners (or the elect, if you are a Calvinist). Knowing all that Jesus suffered, Christians should be satisfied with knowing their sins are forgiven and a home in Heaven awaits them when they die. The least Christians can do is, in slave-like manner, devote themselves, without bitching and complaining, to the Kingdom of God on Earth. In other words, shut up, stop complaining, and be thankful for what Jesus has given you. Just remember, God owes you nothing.
Dieudonne Tamfu wrote a post titled Suffering is Our Story for The Desiring God website. In his opening paragraphs, Tamfu writes:
Suffering tends to produce loneliness. We feel lonely, isolated, sealed off, and detached from others. It is common for us to believe that no one understands our pain.
We can be deceived into thinking that God is distant and uncaring. While I do not wish to invalidate these emotions, I do want to extinguish the lie that the sufferer is ever alone. We are never alone in suffering because in it we join other saints in the pattern of righteous suffering that has been going on from the inception of salvation history.
Are you or other believers around you facing rejection for your faith? Do you feel lonely in your suffering? Does it seem that God is distant and has detached himself from your pain? Do you feel disappointment, bewilderment, or dismay? Are you sitting in darkness, searching for answers and grasping for hope?
Tamfu readily admits that there are times when God seems distant (Greek for trillions of lightyears away). There are those times when God seems uncaring, content to leave Christians sitting alone in the dark, weeping uncontrollably. The good news, according to Tamfu, is that there are other Christians facing similar circumstances. Yea! You aren’t the only follower of Jesus who is writhing in pain as cancer robs you of your life! Are you suffering? Are you alone? Do you feel abandoned? Do you feel like an orphan without a coat, left in a back alley to die on a cold winter’s night? Good news! There are millions of Christians going through similar circumstances. God has abandoned them just as he has abandoned you!
When Christians go through dark trials and adversity, those who are not currently being ignored by God are called on to cheer up those who find themselves under the bootheel of God. They are encouraged to take matters to the Lord in prayer. Seek and trust the Lord, Evangelical preachers tell the downtrodden. What is it that God is trying to accomplish in your life? Remember, no matter what happens, God means it for your good. He promises to never, ever leave or forsake you.
Those under physical, emotional, or economic assault are urged to submit to the “loving” hand of God. Perhaps God is teaching you a lesson, Evangelical preachers tell the afflicted. Or maybe he is testing you or punishing you for disobedience. Regardless, God only wants what is best for Christians. His goal is to make them more like Jesus — a homeless single guy — and to prepare them for the peace and bliss that awaits on the other side of the grace. If God made life easy for Christians, preachers say, they would never appreciate Heaven and all that Jesus did for them on the cross.
Yet, despite all the flowery platitudes and blame-shifting, some Christians come to the conclusion that the reason God seems so distant is because he doesn’t exist. When help came in times of suffering, it was always their fellow humans who helped them. When prayers went unanswered, phone calls were always picked up. When bank accounts were empty and the cupboards were bare, it was family and friends who lent a helping hand. As these former Christians survey their lives, they conclude that wherever God might be, he is not on earth. At best, he is a deadbeat father who cares not for those who love and adore him. At worst, he is a cruel hoax, little more than an unfulfilled promise.
The reasons I left the Christian faith are many, but one of them is that I came to the conclusion that God is not intimately involved in the lives of those who devotedly serve and worship him, despite his promises. Over the course of fifty years as an Evangelical, I had many so-called God experiences. After I deconverted, I went back through my life and gave a reckoning of the times I thought God was blessing me, answering my prayer, or meeting my needs. A careful accounting of these events led me to conclude that the only God(s) in my life had flesh and blood bodies. Human instrumentation, and not the mighty wonder-working power of God, was the reason my prayers were answered and my needs were met.
While there were certainly a handful of unexplained events, these moments in time were not enough to lead me to the conclusion that God is who and what Christians claim he is. While coming to this judgment is certainly not sufficient evidence to deny the existence of God, it is enough for me to conclude that the notion of a loving, caring, hands-on God who is intimately and minutely involved in the lives of those who worship Jesus is a myth.
I am unwilling to swear allegiance to a God who cares no more for me than my cat does. My cat demands constant attention, no matter what may be going on in my life. Yet, if I found myself crying out for help, I know for certain that my cat would waddle up to my leg, rub up against it, and with a voice I have heard countless times before, would say, feed me. This is how I view the Christian God.
Bruce Gerencser, 67, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 46 years. He and his wife have six grown children and sixteen grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist.
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“We are never alone in suffering because in it we join other saints in the pattern of righteous suffering that has been going on from the inception of salvation history.”
In a Calvinist’s worldview, this no doubt includes rejoicing in the (potentially Job-style horrific) suffering God inflicted on you for his own good pleasure. The writer of 1 Peter says that suffering for doing what is right carries its own rewards. But what if you have to suffer – even eternal torment – just because a so-called sovereign God want to rejoice in your suffering? Is this kind of suffering a “righteous” suffering then?
I just can’t understand how some Christians – especially if they are Calvinists – think that a “random cold universe” is scarier than having an insane despot with unlimited power at the helm. How can they not understand that, for me, uncaring neglect is a hundred times better than divine malice. I am not even a “strong” atheist.
Sometimes I think the Calvinists, in particular, are doing exactly what Jeremiah is accusing his opponents of: labelling “bad” as “good” and announcing peace when there is no peace. Many of them, especially the “dudebro” and “intellectual” varieties, even think that their “ability” to accept this mind-contorting doctrine as a sign of piety and “manliness”. A similar tendency can be found among the equally insane über Catholics.
Tamfu’s quote reminds me of the sick, saintly suffering cult that Mother Teresa was trying to create. It was said she took great pleasure in watching people die in pain. It wouldn’t surprise me at all if many of these Christians are just sadists exploiting a religious belief for their own gain.
God is never around when you need him. That, or he has to kill thousands to create the one survivor. A miracle!
Few things insult my intelligence more than the admonition that I shouldn’t rage or despair because other people are suffering in similar or worse ways.
One of those things is the claim that God/Jesus has your back.Only other humans—some,’anyway—can empathize with, and help, others who suffer, or have suffered, as they do,
(By the way, “Dieudonne” means “God gives.” )
I think that Deudionne may be from Africa, where there is a lot of intense and abusive theology that’s taken root there, courtesy of dubious American cult missionaries. A ‘ cold, indifferent universe’s is much better,than custodial gods. It can’t harm you in this life or the next,like the Bible God can. One can’t reason with God. You only get to submit, or contend with him, basically. His needs come first. So having one’s back only applies, as far as this agenda goes for each person. That’s what lots of believers figure out on their own. And the exquisite cruelty that goes with it ! You never know what will come at you week by week, if you’re not one of God’s ‘ pets.’ That label usually fits an Anglo- American with a long Christian lineage. A ‘ godly’ heritage. Preferably a married male. Single people are mostly treated like 💩. The churches in general are uncaring, unless you fit one of their desired categories. After a while,one just feels used to suit a particular agenda, and only helped, just enough. There’s been a lot of clinical depression over this very thing. My reaction was to drop church, a waste of time and money. I didn’t drop God, only because I’m not able on my own,to my satisfaction,able to debunk him💯. If I could, I’d have lots more agency. For some past relationships, this wouldn’t be good for THEM,lol! 💀⚰️
Suffering is not a virtue (says the person who willingly participates in obstacle course racing and endurance running – ha ha). Some sects of religion treat Suffering as aspirational and shame followers for not suffering enough. I guess it’s a way to make up fir the fact that there isn’t an omnimax deity that swoops in to save the day and relieve people and animals from suffering.