Most churchgoing Evangelicals are nice enough people. They may have irrational beliefs and, by their attendance and financial support, lend their names to social policies we progressives find offensive and harmful, but meet Evangelicals at local football games or restaurants and they will act very much like the rest of us. A small percentage of Evangelicals are Bible thumpers — people who live and breathe the Bible, Christian doctrine, and evangelization. Many of the Evangelicals-turned-atheists/agnostics who read this blog were, during their Christian days, Bible thumpers. I know I was. Evangelicals who stumble upon this blog and comment are usually members of the Bible thumper club. Bible thumpers might be a minority within the broader context of Evangelicalism, but they have a larger-than-life presence on the internet, television, and radio. Most Evangelicals are Sunday-go-to-meeting Christians — people who love Jesus and their fellow man. Bible thumpers, on the other hand, love doctrine and hearing themselves talk far more than they do other people. Bible thumpers are quite willing to psychologically eviscerate those deemed enemies — liberal Christians, Catholics, non-Christians, atheists, agnostics, and even Evangelicals who aren’t as “committed” as they are.
Several years ago, I tried to engage a Bible thumper in a thoughtful discussion on the Rational Doubt blog. (Our discussion is no longer available.) I should have known better. I ALWAYS should know better. It’s been years since I have had a lengthy discussion with an Evangelical that turned out well. By the time I figured out I had made a huge mistake, this Bible thumper, sensing emotional blood in the water, turned to attacking me personally, suggesting that I was intellectually inferior and a whiner. This man’s words cut to the quick, opening up wounds that lie buried deep in my being. It’s been almost eight years now since I have returned to blogging. People who have been following my writing for years know that I quit blogging several times in the past because of vicious assholes for Jesus. A little voice in my head kept telling me to tell this Bible thumper exactly what I thought of him and move on, but since I was a guest on Rational Doubt (which periodically publishes my writing on their site) I decided to refrain from giving the Bible thumper the Bruce Gerencser Treatment®. I finally threw in the towel, much to the delight of the Bible thumper. According to him, his superior “Biblical” arguments caused me to flee. He even suggested that deep down I knew that his arguments were correct.
Readers who frequent this blog know the kind of man I am. They also know of my physical struggles and my decades-long battle with depression. Had they been following the Rational Doubt debacle, I am sure I would have gotten emails, instant messages, and texts asking me if I was okay. When a major depressive state sets in — as it did when I had this discussion — life gets quite dark for me. It is easy for me to lose sight of what matters. What doesn’t matter is a piss-ant Evangelical who uses the Bible to bully people. This particular man is just one more of the thousands of Bible thumpers who have come before him. I knew what kind of awful man he was, so why did I engage him anyway? I knew he described himself on his website as:
T.C. Howitt writes at the gospel crossroads of truth and reality, using the Bible to illuminate our benighted culture. He considers no subject sacred in this fallen world, relying on the power of God’s word alone to boldly declaim the shocking wickedness surrounding us in the forms of secular humanism, scientism and technological idolatry.
I knew that his Facebook page said: “I’m on Facebook to preach God’s word. Don’t be surprised when you hear it.” I knew his Medium profile said: “Writer, preacher of God’s word, destroyer of idols, giver of fair warning.” These three statements set off a warning in my mind that said, WARNING, BRUCE! BIBLE THUMPER AHEAD. Yet, despite knowing all I needed to know about what kind of man Todd Howitt is, I decided to engage him anyway. The fault, then, is mine, not his. Rabid dogs act like rabid dogs. I shouldn’t expect them to act like lovable puppies. Bible thumpers act the way they do because they believe the Bible is the answer to every question, and that they know everything. Every morning, these zealots arise and sing:
The B-I-B-L-E,
Yes that’s the book for me,
I stand alone on the Word of God,
The B-I-B-L-E.
BIBLE!
They have read countless books that reinforce their educated ignorance. Bible thumpers believe they have life figured out, and that if everyone would believe as they do, all would be well. Many of these Bible thumpers are Calvinists, adding another layer of arrogance and certainty to their behavior. I KNOW all of these things, so why, then, did I bother to engage Howitt? My counselor tells me that I wrongly think that if I just share with people my story and explain my journey from Evangelicalism to atheism, Bible thumpers will understand. Dr. Deal had told me several times, Bruce, you think these people care about what you think. They don’t! They don’t give a shit about you or what you think.
Doc, of course, is right. I KNOW he is right. I have known for years that he is right. I know, I know, I know, yet every so often the “just explain yourself” Bruce nags me, demanding to speak, and so I let him. And as sure as the sun comes up in the morning, the moment I do, I realize I have made a big mistake. I am not talking here about explaining myself to the regular readers of this blog. I owe it to readers who have invested their time (and money) in reading my writing to explain things that aren’t clear. Fortunately, regular readers rarely need an explanation. They understand my writing methodology and usually know what I mean when I say this or that.
Several years ago, I read a Washington Post article about the turmoil in Spain over Catalonia’s attempt to secede from Spain. Speaking of the supposed dialog between the parties, Spanish Prime Minister Mariano Rajoy said:
The word dialogue is a lovely word. It creates good feelings. But dialogue has two enemies: those who abuse, ignore and forget the laws, and those who only want to listen to themselves, who do not want to understand the other party.”
I thought as I read it, Rajoy’s statement fits well with my recent “dialog” with Todd Howitt. Howitt is an enemy to open and honest dialog because his Fundamentalist religious beliefs have turned him into an abusive bully. He may smile and say Praise Jesus! while he is doing it, but Howitt and other Bible thumpers can and do cause psychological harm to people with sensitive sensibilities (which Bible thumpers view as weakness). Howitt had no interest in understanding where I was coming from. He stated from the get-go that he was a former atheist (doubtful) and he was there not to dialog or converse — already knowing how atheists think — but to preach the Word. In other words, he was only interested in hearing himself talk. Those of us who are former Evangelicals are quite familiar with people who only want to listen to themselves talk. Our pastors were people who believed they were men supernaturally chosen by a supernatural God to preach the inspired, inerrant supernatural Word of God. Our duty as hearers was to submit to the pastor’s — I mean God’s — authority and explicitly follow the laws, precepts, commands, and examples found within the pages of the one book that is different from all the books ever written — the Protestant Christian Bible. As an Evangelical pastor, I did the same. Since I had been called by God to preach and teach at whatever church I was currently pastoring, I expected congregants to listen and obey. (Hebrews 13:17)
Bible thumpers believe they are plugged into God 24/7 — that is, except when they, under the cover of darkness, behave in ways that make them entries for the Black Collar Crime series. Bible thumpers believe that their knowledge of the Bible is superior to that of the vast majority of people on earth. Some of them think that they are so right that no church is good enough for them. They are infected with what I call A.W. Pink disease. Pink was a famous early-twentieth-century Calvinistic writer who secluded himself on an island because he couldn’t find a pure enough church to attend.
Having risen to the level of being worthy to enter the inner temple of Biblical truth, Bible thumpers, girded with self-righteousness, fan out across the internet seeking forums to dispense their Trumpian-level knowledge. Scores of such people over the years have made their way to The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser. These days, Bible thumpers are rarely permitted to sell their faux-gold plated turds on this site. A decade spent dealing with Bible thumpers has taught me that engagement is futile. While I, at times, forget this maxim, I am getting better at just letting Bible thumpers tilt at windmills.
I originally wrote this post in 2017. Over the past five years, I have come a long way in learning how to deal with Evangelicals who only want to cause harm. Life is too short — literally — for me to waste time trying to engage people who only want to viciously, violently, and hatefully attack me and the readers of this blog. On the rare occasions I do engage such people, I do so for entertainment purposes or to provide graphic illustrations of the ugly underbelly of Evangelical Christianity. Such people do a wonderful job turning people away from Christianity.
Bruce Gerencser, 67, lives in rural Northwest Ohio with his wife of 46 years. He and his wife have six grown children and sixteen grandchildren. Bruce pastored Evangelical churches for twenty-five years in Ohio, Texas, and Michigan. Bruce left the ministry in 2005, and in 2008 he left Christianity. Bruce is now a humanist and an atheist.
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One of the most vicious comments I’ve ever seen on an internet comment box came from a Calvinist (surprise, surprise).
In what was probably the greatest example of poisoning your opponent’s well, he – it’s almost always a “he” – said the following of Arminians:
That an Arminian (heterosexual) couple singing hymns in their church is no less repulsive in the sight of God than a gay couple sitting in a bar.
No further dialogue will be possible after such a comment. These people do love to listen to their own voice. No matter how brilliant a theologian John Calvin was – and indeed, he was a genius – I personally sense a similar air of superiority in his writings. No wonder that his most ardent followers follow suit. If time travel becomes possible in the future, Calvin is one of those people I would never want to meet.
Thanks Bruce for the timely repost. I just googled “How to deal with my Trumper hatred” and made my way to this post. It’s very frustrating to say the least. Ignoring them though is not possible now that Alt Evangelicals are getting actual passed to satisfy their skewed Christian dogma. This whole FL “don’t say gay” retaliatory legislation is Bible Thumper sourced.
After Kel’s comment, I have to ask a question. Why are Calvinists so mean-spirited and nasty? One thing I have noticed over the years is that the most vicious and outright crazy leaders in Christian Nationalist movements either are Calvinists or were raised as Calvinists when they were children. Can anyone answer that question for me. Thanks!!!
Hi Charles, Calvinists cannot become Calvinists unless they have been so thoroughly harmed in their history that they can seriously accept that not only do they have no control over their own lives, their lives and everything else too is all a done-thing, decided long ago and far away! So God decides it all and we are ultimate pawns. It makes a man mean to not care for himself and to hate self to such a degree. So, vicious, smiling preachers stand at pulpits and spark and spit at people. They prey unceasingly and do so because the body, their own bodies cannot just suicide all at once in self-hatred. The body has an evolutionary mandate to endure! So they must do it slowly and with excruciating exactitude. Calvin helps them do this, to inch their way in hatred they call love. Is that a smile or is it a grimace? Calvin knows…
In my denomination, those who left the church, whether still believing and “backslidden,” or those who became unbelievers, were considered to be at fault for not having enough faith. And yes, people who are hurt by church members who act ugly might stop going. When our church treated us poorly, it was cataclysmic and we stopped regular attendance. And yet, it probably took me another decade to actually have changed views and beliefs, from reassessing what I knew.
But I think many churches, even the serious ones, can be social clubs for people with similar beliefs. So people don’t attend to help their fellow man, but to get a good spiritual buzz. Which explains why church members actually do poorly with those who aren’t attending. It harshes their mellow, so to speak. Calling up the backsliding ones or those who appear to have finally left? Nah, let’s go talk to some complete strangers (if any witnessing stuff does happen). Never mind that the churches are shrinking. Keep preaching that the infallible Bible is necessary doctrine.
Too bad not too many churches do serious work with the vulnerable members of our society. Oh no, LGBTQ+ people are evil, so let’s persecute them. Let’s make laws against the 1 or 2 poor trans girls who want to participate in high school sports as a female. Yes, South Dakota made a whole law against ONE FUCKING YOUNG WOMAN. People who enter this country as either (1) refugees or (2) illegal immigrants (AND STOP CONFLATING THEM) are also to be despised as worthless. And then us commie socialist non-Christian blah blah blah. If there is a god, these fundie Christians are working their hardest to take control of America and crush us. Somehow, I don’t get warm fuzzies about their god over their goals. sigh
PS–I mentioned trans women and immigrants, but there is a whole constellation of people who are stepped on, especially non-white.
I think you Atheistics are horribly mean-spirited. Personally, I hope to start a GoFundMe to send free soda pop to all Christians who submit to Bruce’s blog. I’m thinking Sprite for the Baptists, Coke for the Roman Catholics.
Listen, you bunch! Alittle sugar goes a long way!
Evangelicals are taught that they have THE TRUTH, and they are commanded to TELL it to others. The only LISTENING they need to do is to make sure their mark accepts THE TRUTH, for then the evangelical has been successful in their task. It’s no wonder that they aren’t interested in actual conversation.
BJW–Thank you for pointing out the trans-phobia that’s seeping back into our culture under the fog of religious belief. It one reason why, even if I could believe in God again, I couldn’t join a church, even a “liberal” or “accepting” one: They are all connected, in one way or another, to the Book of Benevolent (and not-so-benevolent) Bullying.
Brian–I cracked up at your comment, having just read Bruce’s post about why he can’t drink Sprite!
Kel, Charles and Obstacle–Your comments help to explain why such hatred gathers clouds and rains down on us every generation or so, after muttering like thunder in the horizon. Calvinists are damaged people following the teachings of an equally damaged man. And they came, so damaged, to settle this continent and found this country. They are the reason why, no matter how many of us become secular humanists, that storm comes back: the atmospheric instability of emotional trauma rears its head, without warning, just as someone’s trauma or illness can cause them to “act out,” seemingly without cause or warning.
The thing is, as Bruce discovered, “dialogue” with Bible-thumpers simply isn’t possible. Their assertions are just that, based on nothing but belief. Our arguments are based on evidence and, sometimes, experience. You can’t answer an assertion with an argument, or vice-versa. That is why the asserters (which include all manner of conspiracy theorists as well as Bible thumpers) believe they’re right, or at least that they’ve “won,” when we can’t answer them: It’s as if we are speaking completely different languages.
This is in part why I have not ‘outed’ myself yet. I prefer to avoid confrontation and I fear what my friendships in the church will turn into. I assume at best I’ll be shunned, some will weep for me, but others will feel compelled to discuss my faith problems and point out precisely where I am wrong without really listening to me-and after 40+ years in the church I know all the arguments they will make. I could make them myself (I just don’t believe them anymore).
I am basically a coward. Honestly, if I could put the blinders back on, I’d do it, but once they are off, they are off. It would take a literal act of God to change that (and the bar isn’t that high, maybe just responding when I pray).
You are not a coward JW. I agree with Brian. Go easy on yourself.
You’re wise, JW. Everyone has to choose their own battles.
Insofar as being a coward goes, I’m not much different than you. While I’m not an atheist, and feel that (for reasons I won’t go into here) there is something on the other side, I’m absolutely convinced that it’s not the bloodthirsty, barbecuing god of the Bible. I’ve no problem with atheist / materialists, because I know they come to their positions honestly. I’ve become what the Jehovah’s Witnesses call a PIMO (Physically in, mentally out), because the family and social price of doing otherwise is just too high a price to pay.
So like you, I could be called a coward. More accurately, call me Naaman, the Old Testament character who continued to worship with his king even though he knew it was all just a bag of shells.
George, I admire your exegesis of the Biblical text, and how it applies to your life. Well done! I also admire your finesse around your believing family. And I continue to be impressed by how non-believers and questioners of the faith have a much better grasp and knowledge of the Bible texts than most (maybe all?) evangelicals who comment here.
Thank you. I have to pretend that I agree with a doctrine that makes no sense. It’s a lonely existence. but I’m a writer, so I’m used to it. But I do enjoy visiting with my non-churched, atheist relatives. They’re easier to get along with than my evangelical relatives.
JW, please go easy on yourself… Most of us here know the weight of the burden: To be able to simply tell the truth out loud took me half my life to achieve… Here with Bruce, you are free to tell the truth and its out.
That you choose to protect yourself from harm is freedom and self-respect as I see it. Not everybody needs to be public, do they…. Some day perhaps you might decide otherwise but either way, I appreciate what you are saying and thanks for sharing it here…
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I’m a believer and a member of the Dones. I agree with Bruce on nearly everything he writes about. Quite honestly, I can’t stand Christians anymore and I don’t have to give you the reasons – they are quoted quite well in the above page.
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Bible thumpers, like all extremists have bulletproof skulls. There’s no way to get through to them no matter how hard you pound. They only change when it comes from within, from their own thinking.
That said, I’ve learned never to dialogue with an extremist on an us-versus-them, I-used-to-be-an-evangelical basis. The only way I can make even the tiniest of headway with a Bible thumper is to pretend ignorance. “Bible? I was raised in a non-religious home, so I’m clueless.” Of course, they love that: “OH BOY, A POTENTIAL CONVERT!” and they’re off to the races with the total depravity speech followed by the one solution.
When they finish their schtick, you politely tell them that it doesn’t make sense. They’ll still try to arm wrestle you into believing, but they won’t scream and holler like they would if they know you are a former Christian who knows the Bible inside and out.
For some reason, this never-been-religious approach disarms them much better than if they know you’re a former believer. Not sure why. Maybe it’s because they can’t say, “How DARE you!” to a never-believer the same way they can to a no-longer-believer. So I’ve switched to “The Gospel? What’s that?” response whenever I’m approached by a Bible thumping extremist. It works better, at least for me.